What happens to the wave of emotions that inhabits your body, your mind and your spirit when you first meet someone; that initial spark of tickling flutters, of endless pondering, the daydreaming, the expansion, the awe you are left with in amazement of how you truly feel and connect with this other human that your soul has chosen as a mate.
Is it temporary, like the idea of life? Does it shift and mutate into a different form of love and comfort, does it become dormant, or are we meant to lose that connection with one person in order to start over again with another? Should we be alone with ourselves; are we our own soul mate?
Not everyone has the ability to be monogamous. We believe that we can, but it requires work to stay committed to just one person for the rest of our life.
Why is that?
Why do we have an incredible sense of sureness of our destiny with someone upon our first encounter, and then, a couple of years down the road we blend in with the rest and surrender to the illusion of time to then succumb to the stillness of the comfort of our blended spirits instead of endlessly embracing and cherishing one another like we did in the beginning?
Where has that spark gone and can we ever bring it back to match the beginning of the birth of our relationship? Is it daft to even think that it is possible to stay in true, unconditional love with one person for the rest of our Natural and Spiritual life?
I have the ability to love, unconditionally, everyday, every hour, every minute of mine and my partner’s existence. I do not let challenging moments of life affect me (in a general sense) yet I am deeply affected by the distance that the illusion of time puts in between my relationship and myself. My personality and my genetics bind me to my thought process. I am an over-thinker, overachiever, over-activist, etc…
I do all things in an extreme fashion and it can lead to a self-fulfilled prophecy and a variety of issues and problems within my relationship and I am brave enough to consider and acknowledge those undeniable traits within myself. But that doesn’t excuse the observation that I’ve made based on past relationship experiences that we “give in” to our relationships. We stop trying, we stop learning, we let life get in the way, we let our children affect us, we get lazy and we conform within the walls of our own creation as a partnership and the system is just not working.
Love is a state of being; a feeling….not a choice! If your heart is not feeling for someone anymore, let them go. You can’t force feelings of love into your heart for another. It often happens that love comes and goes for a partner. Relationships are effortless like that between a brother and sister or between a mother and child. It’s purposeful, loving, unconditional and consistent. I hope that someday monogamous relationships can find a common ground among the real meaningful relationships of life but still hold on to that chemical component that ignited the initial reaction of a beautiful relationship to find sustainability as a couple and as journey mates of life.